After just posting about my sad, helpless feelings and reactions from yesterday. I checked my stats- and Wow! Two people have visited my blog today! I can’t very well leave the “World of Shirleys” with a depressing post- we need some positive thoughts here.
So I jotted down the following list of things that I can control and that will make me happy!
- Finishing grad school – or a more specific and measurable goal: working today to read at least two articles. More if I feel so compelled!
- Being physically active – I have it all here and ready to attend Yoga and a bit of Zumba this evening. I will attend!
- Having a clean and organized home – Ummmm, this one will take time, and I do not have the time today, but that’s ok- it’s a long term goal. I did vacuum my couch yesterday evening and I taped off the entry-way from the basement this morning so that no more dry-wall dust will enter the upstairs!
- Paying off ALL bills on time this month, and becoming debt-free! Yeah, I’m a Dave Ramsey fan, completed Financial Peace University last year and if “John” and I would just put our noses to the grind stone we’d be done in no time. (I’m starting to see a pattern of procrastination and inactivity towards meeting my goals as a source of discontent in my life, are you?)
- Eating a clean and healthy diet – I highly recommend anything by Tosca Reno (she’s so inspirational), the Eat-Clean Diet books, and I did like the Clean book as well. I truly believe (yet do not practice) that eating whole, clean foods as we were intended can and would improve our very existence in extraordinary ways!
- Having an active social life with friends – Not that I don’t have friends, but I live away from MY family and childhood, close friends. So the friends that we do have up here are my husbands family and friends, and while I do very much feel loved and welcomed I feel lonely. To remedy this I need to take action and set up ‘dates’ with our friends and become more socially active – easy enough, sending a message today!
- Going to church and having a close relationship with God – it’s been tough, but I do rely on God. I need to work on accepting and surrendering to Him the things that I cannot change, and asking for His help in identifying and taking action on the things that I can change. I recently started to attend Alanon meetings and I really enjoy reading the daily devotionals to help remind me of this. It has helped me learn and deal with my husbands alcoholism, but I still have a long ways to go. I will attend my meeting to night!
So there you have it- a list of seven things that will lead to happiness! I have a favorite saying in my life – “Happiness Lies in Action”.
I can cry and complain all I want, but nothing will change for the better until I make the changes necessary to drive me closer to my goals.
Wishing you the best in your adventure to your own personal happiness!